LNbits VS Fulcrum

lnbits.com or getalby.com allow you to use BlueWallet lightning wallet interface. They are custodial, so you could always use a different custodial lightning wallet or a non-custodial one instead.

Or you can run a Lightning node on top, like LND or clightning to make instant payments with low fees. Then you can setup LNbits (https://github.com/lnbits/lnbits) on top and do all sorts of nice things with Lightning.

Details as an github issue: https://github.com/lnbits/lnbits/issues/1375

Very inexpensive to buy (or make yourself!) link and run of of LNBits software with LNUrlPoS extension

You can get it at https://shop.lnbits.com/ and easily run it with the open source lightning extension LnBits . It's awesome because it doesn't even have to be online to receive lightning or onchain payments.

LNBits v0.9.4 (Released: 23th September 2022) - https://github.com/lnbits/lnbits/tags

You can create a card that works with your own node with lnbits: https://github.com/lnbits/lnbits/tree/main/lnbits/extensions/boltcards

Fulcrum. Fulcrum requires more resources than romanz/electrs but it can still run on a Raspberry Pi, and it handles heavy queries much more efficiently. If you're having issues with romanz/electrs, Fulcrum is worth a try.

https://github.com/cculianu/Fulcrum (Electrum server, most wallets rely on it to find UTXOs belonging to addresses)

I am not familiar with EPS so the only thing I am going to suggest is to try Fulcrum which is another electrum server implementation and it's super fast. After setting it up, I let it sync and build the database (it took 8 hours) and now I can connect both Sparrow Wallet and BlueWallet to it both via Tor on port 50001 and SSL on port 50002 with the self-signed certificate I created.

How will you be using the node? FYI for a lot of use cases, an SPV friendly indexer like Fulcrum (high performance version of Electrum) will work, for example through the JS library Electrum Cash. There is also the massively powerful but also heavy ChainGraph. There is also Bitcoin Verde node which uses a SQL database for storage which is nice if you want that. Etc. But yeah, sucks about BCHD for now.

That's you running for example ElectrumX or Fulcrum, or any other Electrum-server implementation on top of your bitcoind.

Or you can run an electrum server on top of bitcoin core, which is what I do. I use Fulcrum, because it's really easy to install. Then you can point your Electrum wallet (Android or PC) or Sparrow (PC) or BlueWallet (iOS or Android) to your own electrum server.